When children are picking up subtle clues and is sensing that the topic makes their parents uncomfortable, they will avoid the subject, and this could lead to parents actually loosing that precious discussion window. Sometimes, parents are also concern that talking about sexual information, will heighten their children’s interest to experiment. However, many studies have actually shown, that information and education about sex does not encourage the activity, in fact it will help the raising children to make better decisions in regards to their sexuality. Especially, when they feel that the subject is not a taboo at home.
When we make our children feel good about their sexuality from the beginning, we’re actually making it easier for them to ask questions throughout their lives. Taking sometime out to talk to your children to make sure that they have the right kind of sexual information, is very important, and here are some of the reasons why:
Nowadays, the rise of HIV infections is adding the urgency of proper sex education.
Sexual predators are everywhere. Statistics says that most of them are not strangers, instead they are more often people that your children know and trust. The more a child feels confident about themselves, understand about their rights of their body and how to seek help, the better you are at protecting them against the unimaginable.
When we make our children feel good about their sexuality from the beginning, we’re actually making it easier for them to ask questions throughout their lives. Taking sometime out to talk to your children to make sure that they have the right kind of sexual information, is very important, and here are some of the reasons why:
Pregnancy and AIDS
Sexual Abuse Prevention and Protection
NSPCC comes up with ‘The Underwear Rule’, an easy to understand way to teach children about sex abuse without mentioning the scary word of SEX. They also have a simple guide for parents, as well a child friendly guide for your children.
Below is another important source. This is video that may help your children to have a better understanding on sexual abuse.
As important as it is, this topic can get awkward and might not be something you’ll talk about in an instant. Especially, if you have a curious one.
Below are some of the keypoints that you’ll want to remember when talking about sex:
Children learn from what they see you do and say. Model the lesson through your own behaviour.
Children asks a lot of questions, and most of the time, ‘dumb’ the answer just does not cut it. It will only lead you to further problems in the future. I prefer to state the facts, I dumbed out the ‘words’ I use, but the information is correct, even if it means that I have to take some time to research the correct answer first.
Because children can’t always distinguish between facts and beliefs, try to not let your personal judgement influence the facts that you tell them. You can impart your personal belief, but start by saying that it is your opinion.
Don’t overkill. Answer their questions without going into the unnecessary details. When it comes to your children’s sexual activity, never jump into conclusions, they might overheard it at the playground instead of experimenting it themselves.
Try to create a positive feeling about the topic. Young people who feel positive about their sexuality are more likely to protect themselves against unintended pregnancies, sexual abuse and STDs.
Try to not pass judgemental comments, criticise or nag when your children ask you questions that is embarrassing, or upsetting. They will stop asking.
An Ongoing Process
It would be best to answer the questions naturally in an age-appropriate fashion, step by step. You know your child’s personality, maturity and interest best, it would be best to address their need for a sex education in accordance to that. If your children have a great interest in science, and you think is mature enough to handle, you can try to explain sex from the science angle. My daughter loves science, since she was three she knows the details in full, all apart from where the sperm comes from. It started from hours and hours and weeks after weeks of seeing videos of dinosaurs egg hatching, then on to any kind of eggs, then to any kind of animals giving birds, and then on to animals in the womb, and then on to human sperm to fetus skipping the birth and then on to the big baby. It all comes naturally, based on her appetite for knowledge. She even had a pregnancy app on her iPad so she can know the stages of the fetus growth each month. She knows all that, but she keeps on asking where the wiggly (sperm) thing comes from. I told her it’s from the dad to give to mum, and we leave it at that.
Be a Good Role Model
Know Your Facts
Give Facts
Encourage Your Child
Better informed curious children tend to be self-confident children in general because they can overcome peer pressure easier. Teach them self confidence by giving them lots of praises when they achieve even the smallest thing. .
Listen Carefully
Positive Feeling
Be Patient
Assurance
Build their self esteem by assuring your children constantly of how proud you are of them and how much they are loved. Stress that it is normal for everyone to be different and that no question is strange. A child is vulnerable, and can easily be carried away by external source. Impart them with proper understanding about sexuality, and be open to them to keep your child safe.
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